July 4th 1966, Liverpool.  A young family, mom, dad, two young kids -3 and just about to turn 1 (me) – board an ocean liner “The Empress of Canada” and head off to a new world and a new life not really knowing what to expect other than some information given to them from what was basically state run travel agents telling them about all the possiblities in this new country, Canada, and more specifically this small town London Ontario.  Leaving behind nearly everything, the journey begins to this new land of possibility as it was toted back in the 60’s.  The economy in England being bad at the time, with not enough good jobs to go around, packing up and moving was the best solution for a young family.  Emigrating from their birth country, leaving behind their extended family, brothers sisters and parents, and moving in the hopes of making better lives for themselves and their kids.  Alone in a country nearly 40 times the size of the United Kingdom.

This was my life and the beginning of becoming Canadian.  Traveling by boat, me too young to remember, on board a massive boat (for the time) and starting anew in a small town named after that oh so more famous town in England.  Never forgetting our English roots, but proud to be citizens of this great country we’ve called home for nearly 50 years.

BTW, It’s great that all of the US celebrates this occasion with me, but the fireworks and hooplaw are a bit much and a bit embarrassing.  Maybe just a nice card or something to mark the event from now on, thanks eh.

Barkerp

One moment

Posted: June 3, 2016 in Uncategorized


There is a Tennessee Williams quote I read recently that really hit home, and I knew I had to use in this post…  ‘Death is one moment, and life is so many of them.’

Moments.  Memories.  Whatever you want to call them, they shape our lives, they are what fills our lives and our thoughts, make us who we are, good or bad, life is made up of moments.

Death is one moment, and it robs us of future moments, but thankfully cannot erase the past moments and memories.  Cherish every moment, live life to the fullest, make new moments, but don’t forget all the moments that brought you to where you are.

RIP big bro and ride on,

barkerp

I get a lot of email. A LOT. Between work and personal emails it is a wonder I find time to do anything other than answer or deal with emails.  All I know is, that on those days when something goes wrong with our email server, there is a lot more work getting done, although the urge to keep checking to see if it is back up and running does cause some stress.

Part of the curse that is email, is dealing with spam and junk emails. If you set your filter too strict you end up missing important emails, and if you don’t use any filtering you end up with so much crap to deal with you will be pulling your hair out.  Of late I’ve noticed an increased amount of utter crap coming in again.  Not sure why, seems to be a cyclical thing every few months, and I have to laugh at the horrific spelling and grammatical errors in the emails and wonder if they ever catch anyone in their webs with these?  Below is a perfect example of what i mean…

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The nice thing is that the spelling and grammar mistakes usually make it easier to spot the spam. (‘appliance’ used when they meant ‘application’ for instance)

Another dead giveaway is the “actual” email address that the email is coming from or directing you to reply to (dontreply@perfectinput.org in the example).  More often than not, you will see a link that when you hover over it you can see the address which rarely matches the supposed subject (witoptions in this case does, but if you google it it doesn’t exist as a company and is fishy enough not to clink the link) and takes you to some ad website that will get you stuck in an endless loop of trying to close popups and pop-unders.  A good idea is to use a domain lookup site like “Whois” and check the domain name to see if it is even valid.  If it’s a real site, there will be info on it.  That doesn’t mean it is a valid website or email, just a better chance that it might be legit.

When spotting spam in the wild, there are tons of common phrases to look for.  Offering pills is big one of late, and I’m sure we’ve all seen at least one from some President of some foreign country offering to send us money if we give our banking info.  Many make vague statements about you and your previous involvement with their company, or offering you something for nothing.  Typically I find it best to toss any suspicious emails without even opening them just by previewing the subject line.  It used to be you could create a list of words to block, but even that is getting tougher since many bots or people substitute other letters or characters for some letters in words to sneak thru.  A bracket ‘(‘ for a capital ‘C’ for instance, or using the number ‘0’ for the letter ‘o’.

Remember, no bank is going to contact you via email and request info, or confirmation of any interactions you’ve had with them, so anything you get from any bank it is best to assume is fraudulent and follow-up with your bank directly.  I’ve even forwarded a few emails to my bank so they are aware and can warn others.

The old adage, “when in doubt throw it out” is never more on point than when dealing with email nowadays.  Thankfully the scammers and spammers are attacking in bulk and hoping they get one response out of the thousands they send out, and as such their attacks are easily spotted with a little vigilance.  Keep your eyes open and be careful what you click on or reply to.

“He is most free from danger, who, even when safe, is on his guard”. (Publilius Syrus)

-barkerp

I saw an image being shared around LinkedIn and Facebook earlier today that really annoyed me.  I’m sick of these so called enlightened experts telling others how to live, and what constitutes an acceptable amount of working hours.

  
1.  Work can be completed.  Projects are started and completed every day.  Saying it is never ending is not true.  I’m not building the Hadrian wall single-handed here, I’m referring to jobs that have a beginning and an end.  They do in fact get completed every day, all the time, by many people.

2. Yes, this is true.  So is point 3 and point 4, which are all basically variations on the same theme – don’t forget to live life, and don’t forget to spend time enjoying family and friends.  Thanks Dr Obvious.

5.  This is the one that pissed me off.  For one, some careers involve working long hours to get the job done, and usually involve working to suit someone else’s timeframe and schedule.  To make statements like someone who works late is incompetent is utterly ridiculous and offensive.  Many times we don’t get to decide when a project needs to be complete by, and as so often happens, the best laid plans do not always go as expected.  Sometimes getting a project done on time means working long days.  Farmers have an expression, “Make hay when the sun shines”.  You work when it is necessary.  Crops aren’t going to wait for you, when they need to be harvested, you do it.  Same as many areas of work.  When something needs to be done, you get it done.

6.  How is working hard becoming a machine?  Working the same length of time, with the same effort, every day without fail is much more machine-like than someone who works when needed, helps out others, puts forth more effort when necessary, and takes time off when schedules allow, seems much more human than machine to me.

7.  I am a boss.  But I don’t force anyone to work late, and if work needs to be done I am the first to chip in and help out.  Sometimes we have to put in extra hours.  It is the nature of the business.  There is nothing ineffective about it, and it doesn’t mean I have a meaningless life.  It means I have agreed to meet a deadline, and I have the work ethic to get it done.  Not just punch the clock and call it a day.  I expect the same from anyone who works with me.

So Dr., It’s this kind of entitled thinking that creates lazy people who expect the world but aren’t willing to work hard enough to make it happen.  Maybe you had everything given to you in life and got to take the easy route I don’t know, but for the rest of us who made something of ourselves, the road was paved with hard work which sometimes involves working long hours.  Doing better than the generation before us is what we should all strive for, and that isn’t going to happen if we create a bunch of clockwatchers.

Barkerp

tilleyBeing told that your dog can’t stand up and keeps falling over face first, is constantly drooling and looks like she is drunk is a scary phone call to get.

We were out when it happened, but fortunately our kids were home and knew to call right away as soon as it occurred. Rushing home our first thought is that it sounds like a stroke.  We rushed our 12-year-old dog to the emerg vet – it was New Year’s Day so our regular vet was closed – and took her in expecting the worst, having had many dogs over the years and experiencing what looked like a total shut down of her faculties.

The vets were pretty quick to let us know it looked like what they referred to as “old dog” vestibular disease, actual name is idiopathic vestibular disease, (idiopathic meaning no known cause) and that basically it is nausea mixed with vertigo and that as scary as it is to look at, it is relatively common in older dogs but there is no known cause of it, or real cure short of treating the symptoms and waiting for the dog to recover.  Which apparently most do.

From PetMD…

The vestibular system is composed of portions of the brain and ear and is responsible for maintaining our sense of balance. When something goes wrong with the vestibular system, it feels like the world is spinning.  Dogs with idiopathic vestibular disease have some combination of the following symptoms:

  • A head tilt
  • They are unsteady on their feet and may fall over
  • They circle in one direction or even roll across the floor
  • Their eyes flick back and forth, up and down, or rotate in a circle (this is called nystagmus)
  • An unwillingness to eat due to nausea
  • Vomiting

For us the treatment was to stop the nausea and the vertigo, and then keep her calm and quiet while her body worked thru it.  The first 24 to 48 hours are the scariest.  Not knowing if she is going to recover, or when, or how much.  We were told most do make a full recovery if that is all that is wrong with her, but since the symptoms are so common to many other diseases it is tough to know if that is the real problem.  Time is the only true way to know.  After some anti nausea medicine and something to treat her anxiety, she seemed to be improving a little.  We kept her at the emerg clinic so that way she could get 2 full days of rest and constant attention away from our other dogs and our noisy house.  We visited her the morning after the episode happened, and as heartbreaking as it was to see her this way, we could see some improvement and the vets could tell she perked up with us there.  After the second full day we took her home.  Still staggering and needing more or less constant attention.  Carrying a 50 lb dog in and out of the house every few hours is not a fun thing in the middle of winter, especially during the cold snap we just had, but we could see small improvements.  Sitting up on her own.  Looking around and seemingly being able to focus on things, and the fact she would flop over and change positions on her own.  All good signs.

We took her in for a follow-up appointment at our regular vet yesterday (5 days after her episode), and everything seemed to be coming along pretty good.  Sitting waiting to pay our bill, she actually got up on her own from her blanket and walked slowly, albeit a little clumsily, to the door obviously wanting to go outside.  With a little help she walked outside and started to sniff around.  Everyone was thrilled and amazed.  This is a huge step in her recovery, and since bringing her home she has managed to walk around outside on her own quite a few times.  Sitting down often to rest, but nonetheless, walking and sniffing and doing her business without assistance.

We’re not out of the woods yet, but there is hope of a full recovery, or at least a nearly full recovery.  From what I’ve read many dogs recover fully, while some have slight head tilts or balance issues so only time will tell.  Rarely there are dogs that never recover, but I’m hopeful that shedding a little light on this disease and its symptoms will help someone else who is going thru it.  It is very scary and from the message boards I have visited it seems many people have given up too soon because they didn’t have all the info about the problem and thought euthanasia was the only option to stop the suffering.  Please share this with anyone you know who has an older dog.  Being prepared and informed could save a life and a lot of stress and worry.

The body, whether it be a human or a dog, has the ability to handle and fix many things on its own given enough time, patience and help.  Don’t give up too soon.  As Dylan Thomas so eloquently put it…  “Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rage at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

-barkerp

(disclaimer:   I am not a vet, have no formal medical training, although I played doctor often as a child but that’s another story…  this information if offered up only as helpful advice.  Make sure you discuss with/and see a vet should you think your dog is experiencing this disease.)